Matthew Frederick | Seattle Writer/Blogger

Perspective on Life, Love, and Self Mastery

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The Power of Choice and Sacrifice.

butterfly9:57 PM on October 29th, 2015.

I finished eating a grilled cheese sandwich about 20 minutes ago.

I rinse off my plate, put my kitchen to bed and walk to my living room. The fire is still glowing. The one lamp in the corner of the room is still on; I prefer that lamp over the main light because it gives the room a nice feel. It’s soft light but gives enough light to move around without bruising up my chins.
It’s quiet. I feel calm. I am no longer hungry. I stop and check-in with myself:

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Left Ear Bleacher Seat

Day 9. Here we go.

Have you ever listened to yourself think? What I mean by that is — Have you ever sat quietly and simply observed your thoughts? Without judgement? It can be a tricky thing to do considering how active our brains are.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden. www.thisincandescentlife.com

I’d like you to try it now. If you are in a safe place, it’s reasonably calm and quiet, give it a shot.
It does not require a pose or anything specific. It only requires you, your full attention, and willingness. Closing your eyes is beneficial for obvious reasons but, not necessary.

I want you to sit still. Allow yourself to drift. If you have a thought, accept it. Say hello to it. Thank it for showing up but kindly ask it to leave for a little while and invite it back. One extremely important fact to keep in mind: You’re always going to have thoughts coming in. It’s not possible to turn it off. If you’re in the midst of this exercise and you’re focusing on keeping the thoughts at bay — that is a thought. You’re thinking about keeping your thoughts at bay. The point of this exercise is to simply allow the thoughts to come in, observe them, and watch them leave as another set come in.

Envision yourself sitting in those bleachers above your left ear. You are doing nothing except sitting and watching the thoughts. You have no facial expressions. No tone in your voice. No thoughts about whether you’re doing it right or not. Just sit and watch.

I do this often and I’ve realized, after several months of doing this, that we have far more control over our thoughts than we give ourselves credit for. Accept what you see in there, simply look at your thoughts with no emotional value – no positives and no negatives. You’re observing. After 30 seconds or so, ask the current thought to leave so  the next thought can come in. Envision a trail. I use the ear to ear. When the thoughts are in my mind and I am up on the left ear bleachers – I see an empty space in the middle of my skull (no jokes about that!) and the thought just  hovers there until I tell it to leave.  As it leaves, it leaves slowly. Essentially it’s dragging its feet to the other side of your head. As it leaves, you slightly move your head to the other side and observe the next thought as it enters.

Now, why is this effective and what’s the point?

I will go into detail about that in day 10. It’s an interesting exercise if you do itTAmazing-colorful-bay-sunset-100813623AB99C35 consistently. I will tell you this — Observing your thoughts will relax your entire body. Your muscles will feel loose. It will cure headaches. It will conquer self-doubt. The reason it does those things is the same reason meditation creates complete contentment for people. You will actually see, if your eyes are closed, the basic functions of the universe in your mind as you watch your thoughts. Over time, this is what you’ll see. It’s truly incredible. I will explain in greater depth tomorrow. Until then, stay safe out there. #my500words

The featured image on today’s post, as well as the first image in the text, are courtesy of my friend Emily Tjaden. Her website is called This Incandescent Life. 
I highly recommend checking out her work. She’s an excellent writer. Click the link and see for yourself.  

As always, thanks for reading.

Much love, my friends.

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Ate the Aches and Reigns

Day 8. Tonight’s post will have a feel to it. I have spent the last 4 hours working on some upcoming material and, to be completely honest with you, my brain feels like french toast…with butter and syrup.

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A Beautifully Domesticated Ant Hill

The second agreement in The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is becoming a significant mainstay in my life. The basic idea of this agreement is Don’t Take Anything Personally. I’m feeling compelled to write about this tonight; mainly because the work involved in this agreement has recently become a much steeper hill to navigate.

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Matter under mind

I had an interesting thought today about the human brain and the belief system we all share. At the end of yesterday’s post, I mentioned the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind stores information from the conditioning stages of life — mostly when we are youngsters. Every belief we hold in our mind is based on two factors. One is our culture and the second is how interactive we are with those beliefs. Anyway, on that note, one must wonder what is truly real. I also wonder how much of those beliefs transfer over, if they do at all, to the next phase of existence.

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The Self Creature

I am getting a late start on today’s post. Not a problem though because I have a lot on my mind. Today was a good day. 

I woke up like a cat. Awake and alert within 3 seconds. I don’t know if that has ever happened to me before but, I have to say, it felt incredible. If you’ve never experienced this – I hope one day you do. 

I wish I knew how it happened so I could duplicate it and eventually make it a daily routine.

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The Flight of Truth

Welcome to day 3 of the super, excellent, magnificent extravaganzapalooza spectacular festivities.
This is a mushroom

This  is a mushroom

“Good evening LADIES and gentlemen. My name is MFrederick and uhhh…I’ll be your Captain-Pilot-Driver this evening. If you look to your left, you’ll notice uhhh…something that is on the left side of your body and in the same room as you. The mind is clear tonight, but we may face usual turbulence around 8:30 uhhh…as we make our way to runway 500, we ask that you please get out of your seats and clog up the hilariously small isle with all your over-sized carry-on luggage. Thank you.”

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The Path and the Quest – Complexity is False Belief

african-eve-1477279I woke up this morning with a clear connection. After a few moments of quiet contemplation, I had a thought. What is my true desire? What is the deeply rooted passion that shines from my spirit?

This question shows up often throughout the course of my life. I am sure you can relate. We all have those thoughts about our life-purpose. We all occasionally think about these things. We’ve all received feedback from others about what we should do with our lives.

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Code Sain. The Writing Journal Journey

wpid-screenshot_2015-09-05-16-44-12-1-1-1.pngCompassion. Dedication. Sacrifice. Intent.

Once upon a time on a dark and stormy night – I ponder, for hours, on how I can start a post about these 4 key elements.
Then it dawns on me — “Look in your private journal!”
I jump up and run to my desk. I sit down in my chair, scan the desk, and it occurs to me that I don’t even have a private journal.

That instant reaction to check something that I didn’t own at the time was a clear indication — It was time for a change.

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Janet Marie is my Mom. And I miss her.

Janet Marie and Matthew Frederick 1980. (Photo)


mom and me16 years ago today – My Mother’s last word was written in her book of life.

She passed on with grace. Remaining selfless and exuding love to the last moments of her physical human experience.

Everything I’ve done, all the incredible things I’ve yet to do, and all the people that will benefit and be inspired by what I do – is all for her.

My life-work is a dedication to Janet Marie.

Thank you, Mom. I miss you like crazy.

You’re still my hero.  I love you.

Your grateful son,
Matthew Frederick.

Janet Marie 1/7/54 – 7/28/99

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