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Ghostwriter and Blogger - Matthew Frederick

Freelance Writer from Seattle.

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The Ultimate Reality – You Are the Entire Cosmos

I am 36 years old.
The Earth has completed 36 rotations around the sun during my physical existence. The ultimate carnival ride, right?


As a child, I was continually exposed to Christianity. It started early. If my memory serves me well, I’d say it began at the age of 5 or 6.

On Sundays, my family and I would attend church services. My brother and I attended “Sunday School” at the church before the sermon. I guess the reason for this was to mold our young, innocent minds?
Sunday School was strange. I recall feeling

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Create Time for All of Your Passions – Not Just One.



Music is Everywhere

I started drawing recently. (The picture to the right is a drawing I did last week) I’ve always enjoyed sketching random things during idle moments or while chatting on the phone. But, the last couple of weeks has been more involved than that. In fact, this is the first time I have sat down to write in 5 days.

During this 5 day stretch, I did a lot of thinking while the pencil (and erasers) danced across the paper. Moments of inner-chemical warfare. Moments of pure bliss. Moments of feeling like I am merely creating a new version of resistance. Moments of embracing this newly found talent and running with it. Moments of wondering how I could balance music, writing, and drawing to where I can maintain full focus on all of them simultaneously — and this is where I am tonight.

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Character Differences and Religious Beliefs Should Not Divide Us.

Within the last couple of years, I have come to fully understand that you and I are connected in ways beyond our comprehension.

It’s so beautiful and so mysterious — it’s what gives life that magic feeling.

You and I are working together subconsciously — all the time.

What that work is, I can’t say for sure but, I do know we have a common purpose.
I wish I could explain it. It would make things easier, wouldn’t it? But, as you and I both know — we aren’t meant to fully understand it. Not yet.

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How often do you check-in with yourself?

Hey, how are you feeling today?

How many times have you been asked this question? If you’re like most people when you encounter this quick, passing-by, hello to a colleague or friend, this is the default conversation we’re all familiar with:

“Hey! Good morning! How are you?”
“Hey! I’m good, how are you?”
“Not too bad, thanks!”
“That’s great…Well, have a good day!”
“Hey, thanks — you too!”

Heard that exchange before? Yeah, me too.

Of course, the dialogue may differ slightly depending on who you’re talking to but the overall theme is the same. It’s a quick exchange of information that really doesn’t hold much substance but, we do it to acknowledge each other’s presence.

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Genius and creativity

What is 1+2? 

 is the value of 1? 

 is the value of 2? 

 we take the value of 1 and add it to the value of 2, what is the outcome? 

Given what we have learned throughout our lives, the value we get is 3. Now, my question is this – Do you accept this?

Is there any part of your mind that has a desire to question it or are you 100% sold on 1+2=3? If you do have, even a slight hesitation to accept it, then you’re on the right track. 

1+2=3 is an overly simple exame of this concept but, it works. When you have a mindset of never being satisfied, never accepting anything at face value, or have the tendency to question things that often go unquestioned – you are a unique breed. You should fully embrace and explore this.

Let’s be clear – I am not referring to an existence consumed with questioning and never trusting instincts. That approach to life could be the cause of insanity and frequent panic attacks. I am referring to knowing who you are, trusting yourself, and never being satisfied with what you’ve been taught. Living a life that builds upon reaching new ideas and new concepts. Embracing life and allowing curiosity to flourish. Informing yourself about things you are unfamiliar with. Count on direct experience to determine your opinions. Take the opinions of others and utilize them but, never allow their opinions to fully form your own.

This is your world. This is your show and you are every cast member, the makeup artists, the producer, the director, and the stunt doubles. The root of your perception and your physical reality is your mind. Everything you see, hear, touch, smell, and taste adds to your direct experience.

The most common response I get from people when I ask about their main objective in life is, “I just want to be happy.” While this is a nice thought and a reasonable goal – I feel it’s cause for concern. Being happy, while a highly profound state to live in,  is largely due to familiarity with the other emotions we possess. Being familiar with other emotions and feelings can make those moments of happiness and bliss even more satisfying.  Feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, betrayed, bitter, or cynical are never goals we set out to achieve – but these feelings and emotions are inevitable. 

Granted, many of these emotions stem from personal choices and decisions we make in response to them but, ultimately, they occur in all of us. It’s a certainty in life and these emotions should be embraced. We are designed to feel these things. It’s a culmination of direct experiences and human emotions that guide us through life. Everything you experience, every person you meet adds a little spice to your bowl of life.

Focus, fearlessness, resilience, and embracing life – including the temporary darkness – is the path to inspiration abundancy. The photo below is a clear example of focus and patience. That is John Te. He’s Mr. Hyde.

JtE paints
Click image to check out his Instagram page.

 Mainstream and cultural beliefs alter focus. Superfluous programming takes precedence over factual data and worthy information. Superficial redundancy breeds illness, apathy, and weakens an already disconnected individual. Many like to claim that people are crazy, insane, stupid, or just plain nuts. Everyone believes everyone else is crazy. Nobody ever claims themselves as one of the infamous “horrible drivers” we all talk about. Nobody claims to be one of the ‘crazy people.’ This, I believe, is a product of living in a society that sustains itself on fear-driven, love-struck by disaster, mainstream media reporting. Repetition is powerful. Regardless of how enlightened or “awake” you feel you are. Subconsciously aimed repetitiveness will find a hole in your mind and enter it with ease. You may be asking – What exactly do you mean by repetition – what kind of repetition?

Repetition comes in many forms. It can be friends or associations. It can be mainstream media or any television programming. It can be rules and regulations made up by people of “power.” It can even be taken to the depths of religious beliefs. Molding a child’s mind and perception of reality before a true sense of questioning anything develops. This is all done by repetitive interaction – either verbally or by electronic media.

Egoism, individuality, and self-defining – overshadow the true self and the unity we all share with each other. It’s a transparent desire to seek shiny toys. The search for shiny, seemingly unreachable, possessions is a primal approach. Like a caveman who found the biggest rock in the cave. He pounds his chest knowing his possession created a tiny sliver of envy in the other cavemen. Possessions do not define you. Your truck. Your house. Your bank account. Your hat collection. Your shoes.  They are just “things.”  Sought-after human inventions while we travel this human experience. I won’t sit here and write about how possessions are completely primal and should be avoided, however, it does create an issue if it is the dominant force that is driving your will. Nature, enlightenment, a constant state of amazement, and gratitude. Life is beautiful – This is where you find answers and calmness.

I’ve heard the argument that, “If possessions make people happy – then what’s the problem with it?”

While this is a nice sentiment and, at face value, seems innocent and perhaps has some validity. I am a firm believer in ‘inner-happiness’ being the only true happiness we can achieve. Possession-based contentment or possession-based happiness is an externally focused state-of-mind. There is not even a percentage of your true self that is defined by external means. The true self is internal. The search for your true calling and your true identity is within you. 100% within you. Living in a ‘possession-obsessed’ society where excess and decadent desires are often praised – It’s difficult to break free from this toxicity. I can prove this to you if you are questioning me. (Which you should be doing anyway) Do this – Go to your TV or turn on the radio and tune to a station that is music or news. I promise that within an hour – you will know what to buy, what is bad for you, what is good for you, and what dis-ease you probably have and which medication you need to “Talk to your doctor about.”

Proof we’re connected – Natural disasters – The primary first response people get within them, in their heart, is an instant need/desire to help. This isn’t a form of individuality or indicative of a nice person. It’s a common emotion that exists all over the world. It’s a sub-section or product of our collective consciousness. When we get this feeling of wanting to help others who have just suffered a tragic life experience – we are ultimately getting this desire to help ourselves because we are all one unit of consciousness.

An intense shift is required. Not a change in political policies. (Although some would certainly be beneficial) Not a different person sitting in the White House. (This would be beneficial as well) A collective understanding. Perhaps it’s time we get back to our roots and slow down. Yes, we need to slow down.

Life continues to amaze me. I can’t express how grateful I am to be a part of this. I’ll let you in on my most recent “wow” moment. It happened just a few hours ago. I took a break from writing this post to put some gasoline in my Jeep. I get up early in the morning so it’s best if I don’t have a bunch of stuff to do before I get to work. Anyway – I make it to the gas station and all the pumps are occupied by other drivers. I pull up behind a car and begin waiting for the man to finish pumping his gas. As I sit there and look around, I begin to feel the energy from everyone. The life stories that surround me. Billions of experiences and stories within a 30-foot radius. I glance over to the pay booth and the clerk (Girl – mid-20’s) opens the side door and comes out with a broom and a dustpan. She begins to sweep around a few vending machines. I become consumed with thoughts of life, movements, and constant changes. People working menial jobs just to have the means to buy food and shelter themselves. (and perhaps their family) Sacrifices. Selfless acts. Random acts of kindness. I felt love and I could not tell you exactly who or what it came from. I didn’t care. It felt nice. I felt human – and that is what life is all about. Standing alone, pumping gas, and smiling while looking at the sky.

In this moment – all I saw was a dark sky. No substance, no clouds, no sun, no stars, no moon…but it was incredibly beautiful.

Thanks for reading, my friends.

As always, Much Love –


Comfortable within

Water drop ripple

Water drop ripple

Day 10. One-third of the way through this 31-day challenge. It’s been a lot of fun doing this. Thank you, Jeff Goins, for pushing me beyond my normal limits with the blog content.

Last night we discussed observing our thoughts. More specifically, observing from the left ear bleachers. Obviously, the bleachers are a metaphor. You can make it a La-z-boy or a lawn chair if you’d like. The type of furniture is irrelevant. The point of that metaphor is the location.

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The Path and the Quest – Complexity is False Belief

african-eve-1477279I woke up this morning with a clear connection. After a few moments of quiet contemplation, I had a thought. What is my true desire? What is the deeply rooted passion that shines from my spirit?

This question shows up often throughout the course of my life. I am sure you can relate. We all have those thoughts about our life-purpose. We all occasionally think about these things. We’ve all received feedback from others about what we should do with our lives.

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Be Still and Listen – You Already Have the Answers.

thinking-304955-mLife is short. We hear this sentiment often, don’t we? What does it really mean, though? When people say this, I believe they are referring to living a fearless type of lifestyle. Not wreck-less, but fearless. Purely intentional – stretching yourself and testing your own beliefs on limitations placed into your mind by a structured system.
This is what I believe is often lost in translation – Embrace the unknown.
When you stretch yourself, more specifically your mind – you put yourself in a state of feeling mentally uncomfortable or spiritually unsure. This feeling of discomfort is necessary.

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Where Did I Leave That Skeleton Key?


When a river floods due to an excess of rain, there is water on surrounding land that ultimately becomes a disruption for many creatures – as well as the lake itself. Life in these areas must now quickly adapt to this change or seek shelter until the water subsides – which, in turn, delays their life work. Even if it’s only a few hours.

If you pour a glass of lemonade into a cup and continue pouring after it has reached the brim, there will be lemonade all over the kitchen counter. This is a less severe “flooding” example.  Now your main focus, instead of drinking a delicious glass of lemonade, is trying to remember where you put the paper towels. Who wants to clean when there is a glass of lemonade screaming “Drink me!?” Not me.

These 2 lessons are different in nature but offer the same lesson in life.

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Mind, Body, and Writing – The Essential Triangle.

sunsetI’ve spent a considerable amount of time reading lately. Reading about writing. Blog posts, articles, books, etc.

Last week I had a short-lived, moderate anxiety spell. I know why it happened – in fact, I knew why, as it was happening. This fact didn’t stop it from occurring though. I believe it was part of the process to understanding balance. I was in an all-out sprint for well over 2 weeks.

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