Matthew Frederick Freelance Writing

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You Are an Essential Ingredient to Existence

Get outside and allow the sounds
to move the hairs in your inner ear – with no judgment or reasoning

Have you ever stood in the rain and felt sincere gratitude that you’re able to experience that specific moment? Feeling the droplets of water crash into your skin?
How about sitting quietly outside – focused on nothing but the sounds of the nearby birds? Not in a way that attempts to figure out the meaning behind their endless chirping but – in a way to simply allow the sounds into your mind. Bbe present and experience the sense of hearing as nature sings?
If you have never done this – I encourage you to do this.
With that being said –

I do not meditate.

Not in the traditional manner – that is.

You may be thinking, “Why do you choose to not meditate? Isn’t it a good practice and/or ritual to maintain healthy spiritual/mental well-being?”

I certainly have no issues with meditation. If it works for you – that’s fantastic.
Maybe you’re interested or intrigued by a certain meditative practice – if so, you should investigate it and check it out.
I am in no way attempting to convince you that meditation is wrong or that you shouldn’t immerse yourself in your own curiosities. You definitely should investigate your curiosities – Always and without hesitation.

Why I stopped practicing meditation

A beautiful butterfly.

Meditation is absolutely 100% subjective.
That is to say – there is no definitive guide as to how to do it. Everyone has their own unique method of achieving stillness of the mind.
Sure, we all start with ideas and techniques from others but, in the end as our style develops, we shed some of those techniques for things we’ve learned along the way. Granted, many of the techniques and/or methods used remain similar – it’s safe to assume we bring our own personality and perceptions to the mix once we’re quietly engaged.

So far, so good.

After a few months of making meditation a priority – I slowly began to realize something.
Taking my perception into account – which is:

All events, situations, happenings – essentially everything that has happened in your life (and mine and everyone else’s) is somehow, in some way, connected and necessary for the other. This connection is likely beyond our human level of perception – its foundation is not capable of being perceived.
Life itself is one event, one happening. Not a series of events – which is how we perceive it now. How we’re molded to perceive it. Molded mainly through social institutions and societal structural values/beliefs handed down to us from the time we’re born to this present moment.

Our perception of time has a lot to do with this

Think about it like this –
The words you’re reading at this very moment is what this entire show is about. This connection between the two of us- at this moment with you reading these words after I’ve written them, holds the secret to the entire universe.

I know…sounds crazy, right?
I do believe it is true, though.
This is not me boasting about my writing, this is about you carrying out an action that is ultimately creating the entire universe. This could be anyone’s perception reading anyone’s words. It makes no difference.

In that moment – that conscious action is what the universe is manifesting. With the present moment being all there is – all past events are created in that moment as well. The present moment and our perception of it create the past.

I will explain this in more detail on Tuesday 6/27/17.

So – if I am practicing an art form that aims to quiet the natural flow of thoughts – thus disrupting the flow of creation and rhythm of energy – it shows that I do not truly understand that every moment of my life is what the universe is doing. It’s the main attraction. The ultimate show of shows. It’s music. Why aim to alter the natural flow?

Who am I to assume that life, this present moment, is not up to par and my subjective perceptions must be altered?

What do you think about this? Do you practice the art of meditation? If so – has it been an effective tool for you? I’d love to hear your take on this.

Thanks for reading, my friends.

As Always, Much Love.

-Matthew Frederick.

 

I am Awake as the Puget Sound Sleeps – Always.

But I’m not the only one

As usual, the Puget Sound sleeps while I sit, and mentally pace, wide-eyed at my desk.

This evening, I found myself attempting to organize projects that are halfway complete or barely started.  Most are  files on my laptop that I toss around like my laundry – as I throw them in random folders, straight to the desktop, or in one of eight folders that are named “writing” in some form. Such as

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Life – the Great Professor.

Life
Photo by John Te.

Photo by John Te.

What have I learned so far?

  • Stretch often, work hard, but always play harder than you work.
  • Life is strange – as it should be. Embrace that mystery.
  • At any given moment – life is playing beautiful music. Don’t forget to dance with the present note.
  • Your experience is the only one that matters. Do not lose sight of this.
  • Remember this: regardless of how much time you spend on making those important decisions in life – in the end, a snap judgment is made in the moment.

So…

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Character Differences and Religious Beliefs Should Not Divide Us.

Within the last couple of years, I have come to fully understand that you and I are connected in ways beyond our comprehension.

It’s so beautiful and so mysterious — it’s what gives life that magic feeling.

You and I are working together subconsciously — all the time.

What that work is, I can’t say for sure but, I do know we have a common purpose.
I wish I could explain it. It would make things easier, wouldn’t it? But, as you and I both know — we aren’t meant to fully understand it. Not yet.

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It’s Difficult to See Life’s Perfections When You’re Focusing on Imperfections.

butterflyI heard a quote recently that has impacted and inspired me. Steve Jobs quoted it in a speech but, I do not know the original source — the quote is this:

“If you live each day as if it were your last, one day you’re sure to be right. “

I have read and heard many great quotes over the years but, there is something about this one that feels like a left jab to my chin. Something that has one motive – and that motive is to wake me up to what it means to be fully alive and experiencing this ride.

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Left Ear Bleacher Seat

Day 9. Here we go.

Have you ever listened to yourself think? What I mean by that is — Have you ever sat quietly and simply observed your thoughts? Without judgement? It can be a tricky thing to do considering how active our brains are.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden. www.thisincandescentlife.com

I’d like you to try it now. If you are in a safe place, it’s reasonably calm and quiet, give it a shot.
It does not require a pose or anything specific. It only requires you, your full attention, and willingness. Closing your eyes is beneficial for obvious reasons but, not necessary.

I want you to sit still. Allow yourself to drift. If you have a thought, accept it. Say hello to it. Thank it for showing up but kindly ask it to leave for a little while and invite it back. One extremely important fact to keep in mind: You’re always going to have thoughts coming in. It’s not possible to turn it off. If you’re in the midst of this exercise and you’re focusing on keeping the thoughts at bay — that is a thought. You’re thinking about keeping your thoughts at bay. The point of this exercise is to simply allow the thoughts to come in, observe them, and watch them leave as another set come in.

Envision yourself sitting in those bleachers above your left ear. You are doing nothing except sitting and watching the thoughts. You have no facial expressions. No tone in your voice. No thoughts about whether you’re doing it right or not. Just sit and watch.

I do this often and I’ve realized, after several months of doing this, that we have far more control over our thoughts than we give ourselves credit for. Accept what you see in there, simply look at your thoughts with no emotional value – no positives and no negatives. You’re observing. After 30 seconds or so, ask the current thought to leave so  the next thought can come in. Envision a trail. I use the ear to ear. When the thoughts are in my mind and I am up on the left ear bleachers – I see an empty space in the middle of my skull (no jokes about that!) and the thought just  hovers there until I tell it to leave.  As it leaves, it leaves slowly. Essentially it’s dragging its feet to the other side of your head. As it leaves, you slightly move your head to the other side and observe the next thought as it enters.

Now, why is this effective and what’s the point?

I will go into detail about that in day 10. It’s an interesting exercise if you do itTAmazing-colorful-bay-sunset-100813623AB99C35 consistently. I will tell you this — Observing your thoughts will relax your entire body. Your muscles will feel loose. It will cure headaches. It will conquer self-doubt. The reason it does those things is the same reason meditation creates complete contentment for people. You will actually see, if your eyes are closed, the basic functions of the universe in your mind as you watch your thoughts. Over time, this is what you’ll see. It’s truly incredible. I will explain in greater depth tomorrow. Until then, stay safe out there. #my500words

The featured image on today’s post, as well as the first image in the text, are courtesy of my friend Emily Tjaden. Her website is called This Incandescent Life. 
I highly recommend checking out her work. She’s an excellent writer. Click the link and see for yourself.  

As always, thanks for reading.

Much love, my friends.

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Ate the Aches and Reigns

Day 8. Tonight’s post will have a feel to it. I have spent the last 4 hours working on some upcoming material and, to be completely honest with you, my brain feels like french toast…with butter and syrup.

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A Beautifully Domesticated Ant Hill

The second agreement in The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is becoming a significant mainstay in my life. The basic idea of this agreement is Don’t Take Anything Personally. I’m feeling compelled to write about this tonight; mainly because the work involved in this agreement has recently become a much steeper hill to navigate.

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Matter under mind

I had an interesting thought today about the human brain and the belief system we all share. At the end of yesterday’s post, I mentioned the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind stores information from the conditioning stages of life — mostly when we are youngsters. Every belief we hold in our mind is based on two factors. One is our culture and the second is how interactive we are with those beliefs. Anyway, on that note, one must wonder what is truly real. I also wonder how much of those beliefs transfer over, if they do at all, to the next phase of existence.

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Be Still and Listen – You Already Have the Answers.

thinking-304955-mLife is short. We hear this sentiment often, don’t we? What does it really mean, though? When people say this, I believe they are referring to living a fearless type of lifestyle. Not wreck-less, but fearless. Purely intentional – stretching yourself and testing your own beliefs on limitations placed into your mind by a structured system.
This is what I believe is often lost in translation – Embrace the unknown.
When you stretch yourself, more specifically your mind – you put yourself in a state of feeling mentally uncomfortable or spiritually unsure. This feeling of discomfort is necessary.

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