Matthew Frederick | Seattle Writer/Blogger

Inspirational Perspective on Life, Love, and Self Mastery

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Love, Creative Disciplines, Support, and Perfection

Do Your Friends and Family Encourage You in the Pursuit of Your Passions / Talents?

There was a time when this bothered me – the fact that some of my closest family and friends didn’t read or acknowledge my work, comment on or acknowledge my art, or check out my acoustic guitar stuff on YouTube


I’ll be honest, I was a little bummed that post after post to my blog, nearly every sketch I shared on Instagram, or music to YouTube – there was feedback, for sure…just not from the people I was closest to…and I wanted their opinions.


I truly wanted them to read my work or check out my newly discovered ability to draw. I suppose it mostly stemmed from wanting them to be proud of me and my work. Perhaps it would inspire them, as well. 

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You Are an Essential Ingredient to Existence

Get outside and allow the sounds
to move the hairs in your inner ear – with no judgment or reasoning

Have you ever stood in the rain and felt sincere gratitude that you’re able to experience that specific moment? Feeling the droplets of water crash into your skin?


How about sitting quietly outside – focusing on nothing but the sounds of the nearby birds? Not in a way that attempts to figure out the meaning behind their endless chirping but – in a way to simply allow the sounds into your mind. Be present and experience the sense of hearing as nature sings?

If you have never done this – I encourage you to. Do it today.

With that said –

I do not meditate.

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I am Awake as the Puget Sound Sleeps – Always.

But I’m not the only one

As usual, the Puget Sound sleeps while I sit, and mentally pace, wide-eyed at my desk.

This evening, I found myself attempting to organize projects that are halfway complete or barely started.  Most are  files on my laptop that I toss around like my laundry – as I throw them in random folders, straight to the desktop, or in one of eight folders that are named “writing” in some form. Such as

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Life – the Great Professor.

Photo by John Te.

Photo by John Te.

What have I learned so far?

  • Stretch often, work hard, but always play harder than you work.
  • Life is strange – as it should be. Embrace that mystery.
  • At any given moment – life is playing beautiful music. Don’t forget to dance with the present note.
  • Your experience is the only one that matters. Do not lose sight of this.
  • Remember this: regardless of how much time you spend on making those important decisions in life – in the end, a snap judgment is made in the moment.


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My Mom – the 17th year

Janet Marie and Matthew Frederick. September 1980.

Janet Marie

Every day, as the sun lights up my side of this rock, at least one thought of you passes through my endless stream of thoughts, until eventually the sun sets over the horizon to give life to the other side – and the process starts again.

It’s foolproof. Infallible. An impeccable cosmic mystery – yet flooded with intention.

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Character Differences and Religious Beliefs Should Not Divide Us.

You and I are connected in ways beyond our comprehension.

Beautifully mysterious, isn’t it?

You and I are working together subconsciously — all the time.

What that work is, I can’t say for sure but, I do know we have a common purpose.

I wish I could explain it. It would make things easier, wouldn’t it? But, as you and I both know — we aren’t meant to fully understand it. Not yet…

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It’s Difficult to See Life’s Perfections When You’re Focusing on Imperfections.

butterflyI heard a quote recently that has impacted and inspired me. Steve Jobs quoted it in a speech but, I do not know the original source — the quote is this:

“If you live each day as if it were your last, one day you’re sure to be right. “

I have read and heard many great quotes over the years but, there is something about this one that feels like a left jab to my chin. Something that has one motive – and that motive is to wake me up to what it means to be fully alive and experiencing this ride.

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Left Ear Bleacher Seat

Day 9. Here we go.

Have you ever listened to yourself think? What I mean by that is — Have you ever sat quietly and simply observed your thoughts? Without judgement? It can be a tricky thing to do considering how active our brains are.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden.

Photo courtesy of Emily Tjaden.

I’d like you to try it now. If you are in a safe place, it’s reasonably calm and quiet, give it a shot.
It does not require a pose or anything specific. It only requires you, your full attention, and willingness. Closing your eyes is beneficial for obvious reasons but, not necessary.

I want you to sit still. Allow yourself to drift. If you have a thought, accept it. Say hello to it. Thank it for showing up but kindly ask it to leave for a little while and invite it back. One extremely important fact to keep in mind: You’re always going to have thoughts coming in. It’s not possible to turn it off. If you’re in the midst of this exercise and you’re focusing on keeping the thoughts at bay — that is a thought. You’re thinking about keeping your thoughts at bay. The point of this exercise is to simply allow the thoughts to come in, observe them, and watch them leave as another set come in.

Envision yourself sitting in those bleachers above your left ear. You are doing nothing except sitting and watching the thoughts. You have no facial expressions. No tone in your voice. No thoughts about whether you’re doing it right or not. Just sit and watch.

I do this often and I’ve realized, after several months of doing this, that we have far more control over our thoughts than we give ourselves credit for. Accept what you see in there, simply look at your thoughts with no emotional value – no positives and no negatives. You’re observing. After 30 seconds or so, ask the current thought to leave so  the next thought can come in. Envision a trail. I use the ear to ear. When the thoughts are in my mind and I am up on the left ear bleachers – I see an empty space in the middle of my skull (no jokes about that!) and the thought just  hovers there until I tell it to leave.  As it leaves, it leaves slowly. Essentially it’s dragging its feet to the other side of your head. As it leaves, you slightly move your head to the other side and observe the next thought as it enters.

Now, why is this effective and what’s the point?

I will go into detail about that in day 10. It’s an interesting exercise if you do itTAmazing-colorful-bay-sunset-100813623AB99C35 consistently. I will tell you this — Observing your thoughts will relax your entire body. Your muscles will feel loose. It will cure headaches. It will conquer self-doubt. The reason it does those things is the same reason meditation creates complete contentment for people. You will actually see, if your eyes are closed, the basic functions of the universe in your mind as you watch your thoughts. Over time, this is what you’ll see. It’s truly incredible. I will explain in greater depth tomorrow. Until then, stay safe out there. #my500words

The featured image on today’s post, as well as the first image in the text, are courtesy of my friend Emily Tjaden. Her website is called This Incandescent Life. 
I highly recommend checking out her work. She’s an excellent writer. Click the link and see for yourself.  

As always, thanks for reading.

Much love, my friends.


Ate the Aches and Reigns

Day 8. Tonight’s post will have a feel to it. I have spent the last 4 hours working on some upcoming material and, to be completely honest with you, my brain feels like french toast…with butter and syrup.

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A Beautifully Domesticated Ant Hill

The second agreement in The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is becoming a significant mainstay in my life. The basic idea of this agreement is Don’t Take Anything Personally. I’m feeling compelled to write about this tonight; mainly because the work involved in this agreement has recently become a much steeper hill to navigate.

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